Things Will Get Better

The other day, I was worrying again. I usually turn on some inspirational videos for my kids to watch in the morning, and I heard Elder Jeffrey R. Holland’s voice say:

Every one of us has times when we need to know things will get better. My declaration is that this is precisely what the gospel of Jesus Christ offers us, especially in times of need.

Life took a difficult turn this last month–my husband ended up in the hospital for 13 days due to complications from getting his appendix out. It was completely unexpected and a lot of times I struggled. I didn’t understand what was wrong and so I didn’t know how things would work out. They still did. Things got better.

Don’t you quit. You keep walking. You keep trying. There is help and happiness ahead. Some blessings come soon, some come late, and some don’t come until heaven, but for those who embrace the gospel of Jesus Christ, they come.

A few days ago, I was feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. When I have bad moments, I tend to immediately view myself as a failure. But then I realized most of the time I was succeeding, even if in small ways. And so I keep trying, even if a few bad moments pop up here and there.

Take No Thought For the Morrow

I was once feeling rather down and I was praying for answers. I opened my scriptures, and this is what I turned to.

Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. (Matthew 6:34)

I didn’t really understand the answer at the time, because that scripture didn’t seem to answer any of my immediate questions. But I’ve reflected on it a lot lately.

There are certain things in my life that are only hard if I think about them all at once. Being pregnant is sort of like that–if you try to think of pregnancy all at once, it seems like too much of a struggle. But you take it one day and moment at a time, it’s all right.

It’s like eating the elephant one tiny bite at a time. You can’t worry about the whole elephant.

We all have trials, but I think they are the most difficult when we try to figure out our trial all at once, when we want to see beginning and the end of it all. But we usually don’t know when the end will be.

When trials and struggles come, the best way to get through it is one day, one moment at a time. We can usually do that next step, even if it’s a small step. There is enough to do right now without worrying about what there is to do tomorrow, or the next week, or the next year.

Some of you know that I have struggled with where I am currently living. I have wanted to know when I can leave. But I came to this point when I realized I live here now, I’m not moving today, and that’s all that matters. I am here today and today is sufficient. It brought a lot of peace to me to start thinking like that.

Planning for the future is good if it leads to action today. But you can’t just sit and worry.

I like this quote:

Worrying is an attempt to exert control over the future by thinking about it. (Chad LeJeune)

And we can’t change the future by thinking about it. It just leads to worry, stress, and frustration.

Sometimes, if we get rid of all our worry about the future, the trials we thought we had disappear.

(Photo taken by Dillon Hoyt.)

the best is yet to come

The best is yet to come.

I don’t particularly love where I live right now. It has been a lot harder than anticipated. And sometimes I look at the problems in my home and I get discouraged.

But the best is yet to come. I can have a perspective that I won’t be here forever. The hard things won’t last–and the good things won’t last forever either.

Sometimes life actually gets harder, not easier. We want it to stop raining and instead it starts raining harder.

But “the best” isn’t found on the easy path. As we keep trying in the hard times, we grow and grow and so we becomes better. Our best self is in our future, and we are working towards that potential.

Life is more than our present circumstances. We are working towards an eternal destiny.

Come What May & Love It

“Come what may, and love it.”

-Joseph B. Wirthlin

I will admit that I complain too much. And much of my complaining is because I want to see how it will all work out. But life never works out how I plan or how I think. There are always detours and roadblocks and unexpected opportunities. Sometimes, it’s okay to laugh at the unexpected. Sometimes, it’s okay to love the changes that life forces. When milk spills on the ground again, when my house is a wreck, when we are late, when my kids are dirty, when we are lost, when the schedule has to be abandoned–come what may, and love it.

 

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Things will work out

Things will work out!

Things always work out. But sometimes I forget that when the next uncertainty comes along. Things have worked out before and they will work themselves out again and I don’t need to be worried.

I was in an uncertain time period of my life, looking at graduating college and possibly going on a mission. I didn’t know quite what to do, but I was sort of interested in marriage too. I tried to plan out my life–mission, graduate school, career, marriage, motherhood. I just didn’t know what would happen and in what order.

I didn’t expect my husband to come into my life when he did. I thought I would be older when I got married. But things worked out! They worked out much better than I could have ever planned for. I hadn’t dated anyone, I hadn’t even been asked out on a date. And then I met Dillon in October and we got the married the next June. It was all so unexpected and so very wonderful.

When I have faced changes and decisions in my life, there has always been a great amount of uncertainty about my future. Life is never how I plan. But things have always worked out for the better. Nothing has come crashing down in utter failure–there usually is very little to be afraid of and to worry about.

Falling into place

Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place. 

There was a time a little while ago when my husband was applying and looking for jobs and nothing was working out right. I would think that there was this great opportunity and then it would just disappear or things wouldn’t work out. I was so confused because what I wanted and what I felt was right wasn’t happening.

Things were falling apart.

But not really. Because the right opportunity hadn’t come along yet. Something better was out there. I just had to be patient–patient to the point where I didn’t care when things would happen. I had to realize that these doorways that were slamming shut were not right and I could trust in a good future. And enjoy the moment I was in, even if it was more difficult than I wanted.