The other day, I felt that I had run out of patience. It happens sometimes when you are the mother of young children. They seemed to be constantly doing what I didn’t want them to. The forbidden objects and places are much more enticing than toys.
I knew I needed to pull myself together better. I don’t mean to raise my voice or get angry. I want to be patient and loving. It just gets hard.
That night I tried to think of a phrase I could repeat to myself. A phrase that would help me remember that I do love my children very much and I can be calm and patient with them. It needed to be short and easy. So I wrote:
Be calm & love.
The next day, it helped. When they wanted to climb onto the kitchen counter, I would think be calm & love. When they made a mess, I would think be calm & love. When my daughter was disobedient, be calm & love.
I want to act out of love for them, not out of frustration because they aren’t doing what I want. And since I wrote down that phrase, I have been much calmer and much more loving.
Is there a phrase (a mantra, a motto) that you like to repeat to yourself?
Heavenly Father loves you—each of you. That love never changes.
It is not influenced by your appearance or by your possessions.
It is not changed by your talents and abilities. It is simply there.
It is there for you when you are sad or happy, discouraged or hopeful.
God’s love is there for you whether or not you feel you deserve love. It is simply always there.
Thomas S. Monson
Sometimes I don’t quite know where life is taking me. Sometimes I am overwhelmed with doubt and discouragement. Sometimes I am flat our confused.
But there is one thing that remains constant: I know that Heavenly Father loves me. He loves me when I am struggling. He loves me when I don’t love myself.
He loves me even though I am weak. He loves me even if I make mistakes. He loves me even if I feel sometimes alone and distant.
Heavenly Father loves me. And I can always turn to that love and feel that love, no matter where I am and no matter what I am doing.
It is a love that I do not understand and cannot comprehend. But it is a love that has been an anchor to my soul sometimes, particularly during those times when I have felt (foolishly) that I did not deserve love from anyone. But Heavenly Father loves me.
And He loves you. And you can feel of that love if you pray to Him and turn to Him. It is a constant. It is always, always there. It is something you can always rely on, during hard times and easy times.
He loves you.
He loves you not only for who you are this very day but also for the person of glory and light you have the potential and the desire to become.
Dieter F. Ucthdorf, Living the Gospel Joyful
Sometimes (about every day) I get discouraged because I fall short of the person I want to be. I just make so many mistakes.
But I’m getting better at chasing away that discouragement. I don’t have to discount the positive in my life. And I NEVER should discount the fact that God loves me. And He loves me for who I am right now. He loves me because He knows who I can be. He knows who I want to be. And He will help me get there.
It’s so comforting to know that if He loves me, I can love myself too. I can accept myself. I can accept that I am good enough and that Jesus Christ will make up the difference.
I can think about all those mistakes I make and not be discouraged. Because God knows that that won’t be a part of me forever. No matter how many times I stumble, I keep trying. And He will accept my efforts and make me into that person of glory and light that He knows I can be.